A couple of weeks ago, I came across an Amy Poehler joke in which she sums up the different generational experiences of money: “Boomers are all about money. Gen X is like: ‘Is it all about money?’ Millennials ask: ‘Where is the money?’ And gen Z is like: ‘What is money?’”

It made me laugh – but it also hit a nerve. It felt painfully accurate and oddly comforting. Maybe it’s not just me. I’m a millennial, and financial insecurity has been a theme in my life for a while. But recently, it’s grown louder, and I literally can’t stop asking: “WHERE IS THE GODDAMN MONEY?”

I used to ask nicely.